Peng Kiam turns 18 today. Just feel that times really fly fast and looking at the 3 growing kids , I just feel that I am no longer young.
Till now, I am still amazed at how fast they have grown to be age 20, 18 and 10. While I am still trying to understand them and watch their developments, they have turn slowly away from me getting into their own busy schedule.
In fact I am a little sad that I have been trying to get Peng Kiam out for a birthday celebration but he has so many "interesting" program with his friends that he just have no time for me to do anything for him. It is just so difficult to "date" your kids when they have are in their teenage.
Like any other parents, I have also gone through the stage where I think my kids don't understand and appreciate me. I felt disappinted with their attitude sometimes and just feel like giving me and pretended that I had never had them. How can that ever happen? No way, no matter what happen, there is no way to cut tie with family members.
Come to think of it, not too bad for me. Though they gave me the common teenage problems like any other kids these days, argue with parents, show "black" face, sleeping late playing computers, but it is also a blessing that they do not get into big troubles. I have some others friends kids who just dropped out of school, get into wrong company and married as young as at the age of 17.
Most importantly is when I am down or sad, they are there to give me mental support epecially the eldest daughter. It is true that it is always good to have at least a daughter. It is not that the two boys don't bother about me, but just that they are not as caring as the girl in small details.
Putting myself in their shoes, everyone of us have gone through the stage of trying to get away from parents. I tell myself that it is ok not to celebrate it today, we have other days to do things together. Building up relationship does not take only a day to happen, it is a long term commitment. As long as we stay strong with our bond, there are may opportunities for us to explore and get closer. At the end of the day, I want all of them to grown up as a happy and positive person.
2 comments:
this is the phase that kids go through when they grow older so it's understandable.....i'm sure at the end of the day, home still matters to them even though they may seem to prefer hanging out with their friends.....
I have many friends pursuading me to try for a girl since i have two boys...like you say, girls are more detailed, more loving and will always have mummy in mind. But its too much risk to take!! What if another boy! Oh no!!!
So i am sure i will go through what you are going thru now with your son...its sad to know how much time, sweat, and tears you but through to be 'rewarded' with such comments...sigh..but i am sure he will see your efforts one day when he is older!...of cos i hope the same for my 2 sons too!!
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